I have become completely sick of Facebook. Originally, I joined Facebook to communicate with my friends. Mostly though, it has just been a corrosive parasite eating away at my soul. It has been just a black holes of time and energy since it entered my life. It just sucks in time, energy and selfies. To misquote Pirates of the Caribbean, it “takes what it can and gives nothing back.” It is a raging fire fueled by the very people that it is consuming. The worst part is that it is stealthy. People don’t know that they are being destroyed by it. People love it actually.
Facebook, the social network that is 1% social and 99% total crap. Every time that I open Facebook, I expect to talk to people but I end up just scrolling through my news feed, silently watching and throwing in a paltry ‘Like’ every once and a while. What exactly does “total crap” consist of? Narcissistic self-promotion, stupid people posting annoying things, people who think that everybody wants to hear everything that they ever did, people who think that they are being deep when really they aren’t, linkbait articles about fluffy and pointless things, ‘funny’ pictures, memes, Bitstrip comics, Tumblr reposts, angry peoples’ overbearing opinions, pointless debate, pages trying to be funny, pages begging you to buy their product, Facebook “hacks,” people bragging about how great they are, dozens and dozens of pictures that literally nobody cares about, “witty” status updates, pictures of peoples’ snotty nosed bratty kids, game invitations, a lack of any ability to spell properly or use grammar, people who whine about how they hate their lives, people who complain about everybody else, and a crap ton of advertising. Basically, everything but social interaction.
I’m sure that there are some that somehow, amid the mess, are able to actually communicate with others, but for most of us, that just isn’t possible. Be honest with yourself. Do you actually communicate with people, or do you just participate in a mumble of meaningless electronic interaction? Are you actually getting to know your friends more, or are you slowly drifting apart? When is the last time that Facebook actually lead to a new meeting or new relationship? Are you really being social with others, or are you just fulfilling your own need for attention? Are you expressing meaningful thoughts and sentiments, or are you just sharing whatever pops into your head in the hopes of getting a few ‘likes’? Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve taken a picture just because I thought other people would like it, or gotten into stupid debates with strangers. I’ve wasted more time on Facebook than what I care to recount. Almost everything that I criticise about Facebook users I have done myself at one point. That is why I want to get away from it.
According to Dunbar’s Number, humans can only actually know about 150 people, and for most of us, we can only really be close friends with fewer people than that. Why then do we try to keep in touch with hundreds of ‘friends’ on Facebook? We are only 3.74 “degrees of separation” from anybody else on Earth through the power of Facebook, yet do we actually truly know those people? From what I have found, Facebook is nothing but a distraction from real social interaction with the people that I care about.
Communication is about getting to know other people. Facebook is about yourself.
This is why I am quitting Facebook. I know you have probably seen dozens of people who dramatically “quit” Facebook only to come back a week later, but I really can’t deal with this anymore. I was fooled by Facebook and its promises of being a “social” network before, but no more. I will be trying some alternatives, (such as the promising social network Path that is designed to crate meaningful connections), but if that doesn’t work out then I guess I will go back to the old telephone. If I get desperate, I might have to actually go visit someone. Then, maybe, just maybe, I will have some actual communication with someone. Actual meaningful communication.
Facebook is a failed experiment. An experiment of huge proportions that was supposed to bring people together, but instead it has alienated us from each other and killed communication. It drove a stake right through the heart of communication- it killed the meaningfulness, thoughtfulness and deliberateness of communication and instead replaced it with impulse, narcissism and stupidity. It has become a mindless output of white noise. If the extent of your social life is sharing pictures and tweeting, then you are not really being social. I am risking sounding like your grandma in saying this, but if you really want to be social, put that phone down, walk away from the computer, and go actually talk to people.